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Presence

June 29, 2006 at 7:16 pm | In meaning in life, personal work, friends |

Have you ever met someone for the first time and felt you’d known them forever? I had an experience like that this past weekend meeting Karen. Here’s a post of hers from February about presense that describes very much how I experienced her, and me with her. Karen and I had a really great phone call today about my last post, and through her questions, I decided that what I’m really looking for is clarity, from myself and from R.

So I called R and we had a great conversation about, “What do you want?” for each of us.
And the answers have to be honest, recognizing both that our respective wants may not be compatible and that the mere expression of the want is not an ultimatum. The mere incompatibilty does not necessarily result in the breaking of the relationship.

What the heck were we waiting for? Yes, our answers are quite different. Now we ask ourselves a few more questions. How does “What I want” translate into daily life.

• How do we want to be together?
• How much time?
• By ourselves and/or with other people?
• What about exclusivity?

Do you have more to add? I see this not as a be-all and end-all list, but as the start of an ongoing process of continually deciding if and how we want to be together.

So thanks very much, Karen! I am more present when with you than I am oftentimes.